If you’re single and work at a church in a production role then you already know where this is going. Here’s what it’s like.
You:
- are perpetually available and value that as a positive spiritual attribute.
- are often commended for going above and beyond the call and lap up the admiration of your pastors.
- are secretly resentful for constantly having to bail out ministries that don’t plan their events well.
- find yourself on campus more evenings than there are days in a week and lament the lack of a social life. And the mere thought of the effort it would take to develop a social life on top of your job makes you queasy.
- find that all of your friends = workmates = church people = the same people you see 9 days a week.
- have more unused vacation than most pastoral staff.
- feel guilty for saying no because, though you won’t say it out loud, your personal time seems to carry less value than everyone else’s.
- wonder why you’re still single.
If you resonate with that list at all then you are my people. Here’s what I’m learning in my 40s, never married, having been committed to ministry in various forms throughout my life. Read the rest of this entry »
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